Negative People in your Life? 😥 Put up Barriers 🧱
Ah yeah... the age old question of how to deal with the bad people in your life.
Well, let's start with the simple part of this first.
And that is the aspect of physically removing the person out of your life.
This is definitely the most simple way to end interactions with people that are toxic to you.
Now, simple doesn't necessarily mean easy, but most times it is easier than you think it is.
If a person is dragging you down constantly and they can be avoided... by all means avoid crossing paths with that person.
For example if someone that bothers you eats at the same place you eat for lunch everyday...then switch to a different restaurant, or eat in your car.
Or switch the time that you eat.
Now that's easy.
Then the less-easy part of this solution is where you might have to hurt someone's feelings a bit to cut them out of your life.
Like a toxic friend for example.
Sometimes you just have to confront them and tell them that it's just not working out and you need a break from them.
Either way... easy or less-easy... physical removal is the best way to deal with negative or bad people.
What's more difficult is how to deal with the people who drag you down, but you can't just cut them out of your life.
Your mom, a sibling, or even a co-worker...
In the example of a co-worker, I'd say let's make a plan to change departments or even change jobs if the situation is bad enough.
But for toxic family member such as a parent, grown kids, or a sibling, this is when you need to put up barriers, sometimes called boundaries.
This will take time, energy, and practice to perfect.
But you can do it.
In fact, I'd say you NEED to do it...for the sake of your wellbeing.
A plan of action when erecting a mental barrier would include...
Limiting the amount of time you spend with the person, speaking to them only when necessary, and most importantly... filtering everything they say to you.
That last one is most important... the filtering process.
If you know a person is a bad person, you should take everything they say with a grain of salt.
In other words, what they say has no bearing on your feelings.
Since you have a barrier, a boundary, up between you two, you can then do what you need to do to physically care for them if need be.
But here's the beautiful part... you can be a million miles away from them in your mind.
It'll take practice, but you can do it!
Motivation for you to realize today that you DO NOT have to put up with negative people in your life.
You really don't.
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